Sound like you?

Let’s Do What Works.

We work in two layers.

The first layer is about helping you learn how to talk about the difficult things.

We focus the coaching on doing the things that authentic, happy couples do to succeed in their relationships, and on recognizing and redirecting the behaviors that unhappy couples need to stop doing. Hot conflict can be turned into an opportunity to grow closer. The downward spiral of cold avoidance can be warmed up and reversed.

We often begin with a few basic skills, like how to say what’s true without evoking defenses, how to actually hear what your partner’s saying, and how to build warmth and safety with small considerate acts.

The second layer is about mending underlying, sometimes very old hurts—and how they’re triggered in a way that derails real communication in the present.

Pockets of pain can create circular conflict and prevent couples from communicating constructively. Facing these obstacles together couples come to know each other in new, deeper ways, and “combatants” or “roommates” can often rather suddenly find themselves in a relationship with a powerful, beloved ally.

You really can get there from here.